Body Upkeep....A Few Thoughts

Growing up in a home and being the only male AND the youngest made me realize a few things about the upkeep of a human being. I really didn't see it as "women upkeep" cuz i cant front my dad wasn't living with us and when he and i would spend the little time we did together i noticed he kept himself really proper for the simple fact......you have to take care of yourself.

Right now all I'm focusing on in this post is appearance. A books contents are above all extremely important, but if you want people to read you, lets face it...the cover needs to draw attention.

Some people use gimmicks, follow trends while others like to follow their voice and pick from various places to make themselves look as they feel they should. As i mentioned before i observed a lot from my family growing up and when I came to that age of noticing girls (high school for me) I did my best with what i had to help cover the contents of my book. Granted my book was fatter than other (yea i was the fat boy in school), but i made sure i wasn't the "stinky kid" or the "nasty fat boy". I had a lot of misses, but some hits so i know it wasn't all that bad, high school after all is very superficial.

Once i was done with high school and did a few months in college i was out in the world. When you're on your own things can go in many different directions when you're the only one responsible for your physical upkeep. I've seen extremes on both end and everything in between. Its kinda weird to see people not really give a shit about their personal appearance or how curtain aspects of their physical that other people can notice (smells being one of them) they tend to not pay that much attention too and let slip. On the flip side I've seen people spend way too much time on themselves to the point of acting like a mannequin while they are out and about and hope that not even a single strand of hair is out of place. To each their own of course.

Where am i with my physical upkeep? I'm good with mine; I'm working out more, i make sure i look presentable. I'll admit sometimes let the facial hair go to get that rugged look going. Most of the time I'm straight with mines, only problems i have is dry lips and facial hair issues. I don't like putting anything on them (lips) and when i lose focus on myself i tend to find myself with them (dry lips)....which i then immediately correct as with anything else along with any hints of a uni-brow (which i find disgusting).

I wont front when I'm able to i like to get my nails done with a nice buff polish. If you're a dude reading this.....WOMEN NOTICE YOUR HANDS. Unless they like that look of you digging through the dirt all day AND having a fight with a bottle of Talcum Powder, you should look into fixing that up. I would say unless ur like me with naturally soft hands and feet, having rough skin is a 50/50 thing with women, some like soft others like rough.

I guess everyone may come to a point of how they take care of themselves be it good or bad; all i know is what encompasses my world, my own focus and those that are affected by it.....then i just take what i know, what i learned and see if its a good addition to my arsenal.

BSoM

P.S. To any dudes AND females reading this or who like to give advice like this to other people.......NEVER and i mean NEVER fart before a date after you've gotten dressed. That shit lingers and you don't wanna be smelling like ass when you're trying to get up close to a cutie and it smells like you forgot to wipe. I'm just sayin'.

P.P.S. Good point from TrapSwagg in the comments; i forgot to mention the whole "Metrosexual" bullshit. I am and never will go to that extreme and if that's you or your man then hey more power to you, but i think for a man that's a little past the line of taking extra care of yourself.

With My Luck It Figures

The one day i get off on a Tuesday....of all days of the week....because of the Jewish holiday i freaking get sick. Must have been all the friends joking saying i was so lucky or they hated me (jokingly) for having the day off when some of them had to work.

I stood in bed all day; caught up on my downloaded shows and movies; read a little; chatted with friends.......ugh, i need that vacation quick i was talking about.

I feel like i lost a few things, gained a few things all the while still waiting for that major change i feel is coming in my life.

Surprisingly, I've found inspiration with smart, go getting friends that it's rubbing off on me. I got real comfortable in my space and that's just short changing myself and the person i can further become.........that needs to stop.

Time to kick life in the balls and walk away laughing.......I just gotta get the fuck outta this bed first!

BSoM

Colonoscopy........How Do I Hate Thee

Yes that was last Friday; me, Mr. Huggy Bear getting violated all for the sake of my health.

More on that in a minute......

One thing I want to share with you the reader who may relate to this either by your own experience or someone you share your life with is that having a G.I. (gastrointestinal) disorder is no fun. It can range from discomfort to extreme and life threatening. For some reason i jump from discomfort to life threatening as if it were a light switch.

Since my late teens I've been dealing with Crohns Disease (see link below for more info). It came at me with full force. I went from a kid who could tackle anything on his plate to always wondering "if i eat this will it hurt me". It did not help that i was extremely over weight as a teen and young adult with no eating discipline. Killing a plate of some mean Spanish food or fast food meant discomfort, cramps and pain that would leave me balled up in bed thinking i had one of those aliens ready to burst out of me and Ripley was in the next room with a flame thrower (If you don't follow Aliens then you are sooooo lame! lol).

Not to mention mental stress can trigger bad discomfort also. Mind and body are truly linked, take care of one to help the other and you will be in a positive balance.

Needless to say having a colonoscopy becomes routine rather than that special doctors visit once in one or two years after a certain age that you hate to schedule, but need to do. When i talk to older folks they shift their eyebrows and tell me "you're too young to be doing that now"; then i tell them about the Crohns.

When i arrived in my early adulthood I was faced with another ailment triggered by Crohns......abscesses. Not a very fun thing to have and I've been through three already. I am happy to say i haven't had one in years and pray i never get one again. For all you mean/evil thinking people, yes this is something you would wish on an enemy.

Another is sudden and severe bowel bleeds; this is scary. If for any reason you have blood in your stool or excessive blood loss out your backside, GET CHECKED OUT. It can be a sign of something serious. The first time it happened to me i passed out and had to be admitted to the hospital for a few days. The crazy thing about it is after i followed up with my doctor they couldn't find the cause. I got a colonoscopy; test were done to examine my small intestines; i even had an endoscopy done to see if i have a bleeding ulcer in my stomach. All negative from the hospital tests and my own doctor.

One thing i wanted to do that night of my first bleed was rip the balls off of one of the EMS workers; this bastard was doing the write up of my 911 call in the EMS truck and when i mentioned i had Crohns this idiot says "Yea, i had a friend who had that....he died at 36", I was what 26 (I think) at the time. You really think telling someone that shit is going to ease their mind?? I was lucky my wife was riding with me for support and i never forget to remind her and thank her for that. Another thing this idiot did was when they were waiting to admit me to triage i felt light headed again and asked for oxygen; he didn't want to get up to the truck to get it and i passed out again; i woke up with 4 guys picking me up to put me on a bed from the wheelchair. Some people should really examine their career choices because his personality for that job was ill suited. You're helping people survive something, don't be cold, uncaring or mentally irresponsible.

What Lead To Fridays Exam:
On a Thursday (about 2/3 weeks ago) when i got home i experienced another bleed and since the blood has to come from somewhere i started feeling dizzy and light headed; I called my wife and she planned to meet me at the emergency room. I hopped in a cab and kept telling the driver to hurry. I was so afraid i was going to pass out in his cab and he would have to take me to one of those horrible hood hospitals i hate going to or god forbid dump me out of his cab in the street passed out to a horrible fate. But i stayed positive and strong; he was cool and did his best. I held on and made it. Needless to say after hours of observation, being given tons of fluids along with quick tests and waiting for results from blood taken they choose not to admit me since i was also feeling much better. I was able to go home while being advised to follow up with my primary doctor. The blood in my digestive system took about 2 days to clear my system and whatever was bleeding sealed itself up.

On a positive note after the review of my procedure my primary doctor surprised me with some good news. Comparing the results from the current tests to the tests done in the past and the health of my gastrointestinal track is better. Although there was an area of concern so he took a biopsy for further tests. He asked what i was doing and i told him i really eased up on the foods i ate (waaaaay better food discipline), vitamin supplements, cutting down my carbonated drinks consumption (sodas); anything that would cause me distress physically and took advantage of my gym membership to strength my body along with seeing a therapist for my mental health.

The bad news is YET AGAIN i'm back to square one and still left to wonder what the fuck is bleeding me out so bad inside every few years?

Considering the life span living in the hood it kinda does feel like turning 30 years old is giving me a mid life crisis and on top of what my body goes through it puts things into perspective about things in your past, how your present is holding up and your outlook/hopes for the future. I just pray Crohns isn't genetic because i do not want to pass this on to my children.

DO NOT IGNORE THE SIGNS YOUR BODY GIVES YOU!!

I want to leave on a positive note and say please don't worry; right now I'm fine and taking care of myself. My support structure may be small, but i manage and i will prevail no matter where my future takes me. My life and emotions are in a valley and i will face my challengers head on, but i will reach another peak and enjoy my life with whatever happiness is given to me by god.

To learn lifes lessons is to put yourself on a path of true mental clarity.

BSoM

Website:
http://digestive.niddk.nih.gov/ddiseases/pubs/crohns/

For All You Mouth Breathers

I was on the train today and i noticed a few people breathing through their mouth. Its not like i'm against it....if you have to do it for some reason then by all means.

Thing is when you really think at how your body work you really should breath through your nose. Your nose is the bodies natural air filter. How you ask?

Hair and mucus.

Both trap a lot of particles in the air we breath while nasal cavity helps constantly push out the mucus out of your nose where the particle land and get stuck. Then once and a while you have to pick/blow it out of your nose.

If you've ever been in a brightly lit area and you see little things floating in the air imagine what you dont see and understand you are breathing that into your body.

No you don't have to be scared if you're a hypochondriac, but pay mind to and understands what goes into your body and what comes out. It can save you a lot of downtime from being sick or run down in general; sometimes feeling shitty isn't a mind state it can be a physical cause.

Peace